I had 3 kids in 5 years. Our last child had some significant delays. My life went from predictable and orderly to chaos in a matter of months. I poured my life into the needs our youngest child.
I did what most of you would do, I worked hard to support our family with everything I had. I worked. I did all the therapy. I supported my husband in his calling. I loved my other kids well. I ran our home.
In the midst, I didn’t care for myself well. I forgot about me. I tried, but I was exhausted. I put myself last. Slowly overtime, I have felt myself breakdown.
So in this new season, I am starting fresh. I have new simple self care rhythms. Things just for me in this new season.
We all know it, sleep is important. We function much better with sleep. Our emotions are balanced and our bodies are healthy when we sleep well.
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, make sleep a priority. Go to bed early. Turn off the tv and put your phone away. Take naps if you need, but get good rest. Seven to eight hours a night is a good goal.
2. Do one thing at a time
A wise mentor once said to me, having a bunch of little kids under your feet feels like having popcorn popping in your head all day long. The do-list and demands from your people pop like pocorn in your head: "Pay that bill" "Finisih that work deadline" "Turn in that persmisssion slip" It never ends and we try to mulit-task to get it all done. In the end, we feel run down and always behind.
In seasons of stress, do one thing at a time. Multi-tasking is great, but it should not be our long-term way of living. Complete ONE task before you go on to the next. Even if you only get one task COMPLETED today, feel proud of it. Let the rest go.
3. Find a simple uniform that fits you well
Find 2 or 3 simple outfits in your closet that fit your body and you feel good in. It is amamzing how much better we feel when you wear clothes that fit well. Clear out all the meantal clutter that goes along with getting dressed and have a few go-to peices.
Do you have a closet full of clothes that don't fit? Buy something new. A well fitting pair of jeans and a great t-shirt are your best friend. Pair if with a great pair of boots or booties. You don't have to break the bank.
4. Listen to your gut
You know what is best for you. Listen to yourself. Take some time to be quiet and take a little personal inventory.
We can move so fast in life that we often tune out our voice. We listen to solve the needs of those around us, but sometimes we ignore our own voice. So be sure to listen to what YOU may need and then ask for help.
5. Create some mental white-space
Graphic designers know that websites with the proper about of white-space increases readability. People engage more when a design has proper amount of white-space. Our brains are the same way. We need to create an appropriate amount of white-space to perform and function properly.
This is easier said than done, but super important. It is an on-going journey, but one we need to be aware of. When we begin to feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a time out. Make a reasonalbe to do list and then find space to give your self a time-out. Delegate tasks and say "no". Then, go for a run, take a nap, get a baby sitter, or take an afternoon out on your own. You'll come back to your tasks and work more efficently.
The thing about self-care is that it is an every evolving thing. It changes. Our lives are in constant state of transition. Give yourself the grace to change and grow your self-care rythms with the changes in your life.
Be realistic, some seasons you’ll fail at self-care. Its cool. I’ve been there too. Don’t beat yourself up. Do the best you can. Listen to yourself and move forward. You are important.
What are some simple self-care rhythms you have in stressful seasons?