I've always been the goal setting, list making lover. I can't remember I time when I wasn't making plans and writing lists.
Somewhere between my second and third child, I began to really take this goal setting thing seriously. I spend a lot of time at the beginning of each year thinking through what it is I want to accomplish. I started to write all those things down, organize them, and attempt to tackle them all throughout the year. Some years, I may get them all accomplished. Other years, it may not happen and that's okay with me.
For me setting goals is about taking a breath. It is more about evaluation than achieving. It is about looking up from my crazy, busy, work-filled, kid-filled, life and evaluating the situation. I take time to ask myself:
Am I growing spiritually?
Am I learning new things?
How is my self-care? Am I exercising? Drinking water? Eating properly?
Where can I spend more time developing relationships with my people?
How can I help my marriage grow?
What are my financial goals?
Is my career moving in the way I want?
If I don't stop to ask myself these things I feel like life begins to HAPPEN to me instead of me HAPPENING to life. Sure the unexpected happens to everyone; children are born special needs, the job you love turns into the job you hate, the car breaks down, and relationships can become strained. It happens.
I may not be able to control ALL things, but I can control my reaction to things. I can dream. I can ask tough questions. I can set goals. I can reevaluate a goal if my life changes. I can learn to accomplish things I want instead of succumbing to the demands of others.
There are so many great goal setting worksheets and books. My advice would be to find something you LOVE and stick with it. If it is not a good fit for you, move on. My favorites are Lara Casey's Power Sheets and Crystal's Goal planning sheets.
How do you set goals?